You’re not really in a relationship with someone,Silip but you’re not exactly just hooking up either. We've all been there, but no one ever knows quite what to call it.
Now there is an answer: a situationship. Yessss. That is exactly right. Far better than the old standby “it’s complicated” and much more descriptive than “hanging out.” Such sweet relief.
The term was unearthed by Carina Hsieh, who wrote about it for Cosmo.She says she first heard it from a guy at a party named Tony, who said "Basically, we’re in this situationship where it’s like things either progress or they don’t."
SEE ALSO: How to move on after a situationship endsTony is a genius, obviously. But where does this leave us? Is there anything wrong with lingering in the weird middle ground between an emotionless hookup and the place where there’s a discussion and terms like boyfriend/girlfriend/etc. can be comfortably tossed around?
Cosmopaints them as very destructive and pretty much the main problem with modern romance. They urge you to "save yourself from the fallout and set boundaries early on. Normalizing situationships teaches people to lower their expectations and take whatever they can get from a partner, because hey, at least he likes you."
A situationship is nothing if not all about hope.
Hmm. It's true that for many the lack of a concrete label alone can be stressful. And there’s also the fallout to deal with when the situation comes to an end. A situationship is nothing if not all about hope, and when that fizzles it's natural to be upset. But you also might feel weird mourning something that wasn’t actually an official thing.
SEE ALSO: Tinder users say 'situationship' is a valid relationship statusBut on the other side, maybe it's okay to spend a little time in a land without labels. There's not as much pressure. If you’re not really ready for a full-blown relationship or if you’re not totally sure this person is the one for you (or even the one for right now), then a situationship is a perfectly legit period of testing the waters.
When you really get down to it, life is basically just one long situation, with very fuzzy boundaries and lots of messy emotions. So love it or hate it, at least it has a name now.
This article was originally published on May 3, 2017.
Previous:Belladonna
Next:Literature Shrugged
Best free AI and ChatGPT coursesWordle today: The answer and hints for March 6Microsoft confirms March 'Surface' event: Will we see Surface Pro 10, Surface Laptop 6?Birds are flying around in Hurricane Irma's eyeBest free ChatGPT coursesNYT's The Mini crossword answers for March 9NYT's The Mini crossword answers for March 9'Love Lies Bleeding' review: Kristen Stewart headlines gnarly masterpieceHow to watch the 2024 Oscars without cable: Everything you need to knowSpongeBob Xbox is being resold for thousands of dollars on eBay'Dune: Part 2' coHurricane Irma's forecasted to hit MarWordle today: The answer and hints for March 8Free $75 Best Buy gift card with eero mesh purchaseGoogle will repair Hurricane Harvey victims' Pixel phones for free in HoustonElon Musk shows off another look at the new SpaceX spacesuitJohn Cena has found his postBest smartwatch deal: Score the Samsung Galaxy Watch5 Pro Bespoke Edition for 56% offGoogle will repair Hurricane Harvey victims' Pixel phones for free in HoustonBest smart home deals: 33% off Amazon Smart Home devices 'DOC' at Anthology Film Archives by Deirdre Foley 'Quordle' today: See each 'Quordle' answer and hints for April 29 Staff Picks: ‘DOC,’ ‘Luminous Airplanes’ by The Paris Review Staff Picks: Ghost Stories, Black Books by The Paris Review Reading 'House of Holes' in Public by Andrew Palmer No Sandals Allowed by Lorin Stein How 'Judy Blume Forever' uses animation to illustrate taboo topics Tesla says Juneteenth is a holiday, but Elon Musk clarifies the catch Straight Talk by Ian Volner Breonna Taylor's death shouldn't be an insensitive Twitter meme Our New Café au Lait Cup in Action! by Sadie Stein 'Peter Pan and Wendy' review: Disney's live Florida residents protesting mandatory masks is like a 'Parks and Rec' fever dream Subscribe Now to Get a Digital Discount! by Sadie Stein What's the real story behind 'Love and Death's Candy Montgomery? 'Wordle' today: Here's the answer, hints for April 28 Fashion Week, 1947 by Rosamond Bernier Fake Paintings; Perfume Tester by Chris Flynn 'Jury Duty' review: A wonderfully wacky twist on reality TV Document: Ernest Hemingway to Ursula Hemingway by Ernest Hemingway